Family rules and boundaries are statements and guidelines that describe how family members behave, care for, and treat one another. It’s about what behaviour is and isn’t ok in the family.
You don’t need many rules or boundaries, but it’s important that you agree on these as a family.
Your family rules don’t need to be rigid or complicated. In fact, the most effective ones are simple, clear, and consistent.
Here are a few tips to help build that culture at home:
Keep it simple
Focus on a few core values or behaviours that matter most — like honesty, kindness, or respect for each other’s space.
Collaborate with your teen
Involve your teen in setting the rules. Ask questions like, “What feels fair to you?” or “How do you think we should handle screen time during the week?” When teens are part of the process, they’re more likely to buy in.
Be clear about consequences
Don’t leave expectations vague. If there’s a rule, make sure everyone knows what will happen if it’s broken — and stick to it. Consistency builds trust.
Model what you want to see
Teens are constantly observing. If you expect respectful language, use it yourself, especially during conflict. If you want them to be honest, demonstrate this by admitting your own mistakes.
Having consistent family rules actually strengthens your relationship with your teen.
These rules and boundaries build mutual respect and give your teen a solid sense of safety and structure—something they often won’t admit they need but absolutely do.
It’s not about being a “strict parent” or a “chill parent.” It’s about being a connected one.
We encourage you to check out our blog post on setting boundaries that stick. Click here: Boundaries that stick: how to set rules with your teen.
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