Do you suspect your teen is vaping? How do you know for sure? And what do you do if that’s the case? Here are some tips to help manage this issue.
New vaping reforms (in Australia)
Yes, it’s good news – particularly for our young people. Australia is finally getting some action around concrete regulations for the underage selling of vapes. (Click here to read the statement on Australia’s ‘next steps on vaping reforms’).
While this is to come into effect in early 2024, what do we do as parents in the meantime, as our teens can still get access to them?
Why are parents and carers worried about vapes?
Vapes, available without a medical prescription, currently flood the market, reaching places like tobacco shops and even small shops like the ‘$2 stores’. Despite being advertised as nicotine-free, tests reveal that some vapes can contain as much nicotine as one pack of cigarettes.
The effects of vapes range from an alcohol like intoxication and euphoria to hallucinations, depending on the substance and the dosage. Then there are the additional dangers such as starving the brain of oxygen, resulting in a brief head rush. Vapes often contain hazardous chemicals like paint thinners, petrol, glue, and nitrites.
Their affordability and availability make them attractive to young people, with reports of 12-year-olds buying them (even in school uniform!).
Young people are usually unaware of the serious health risks, and those who start using them at an early age are likely to become very dependent on them.
How can I be sure if my teenager is vaping?
You might have some suspicions, but you’re uncertain. This is natural. Look for signs like:
- unusual odours-it can be sweet smelling or even a hint of nicotine (smoky) on clothes.
- money transactions to random small shops-like $15 to $26.
- phone charger cables that have been cut (the wires are used as a charger for vapes).
- changes in behaviour like your teen is looking a bit dazed, wide-eyed or exhausted and wants to sleep all the time.
It can be hard sometimes to work out what’s normal teen behaviour from signs of vaping.
Why would my teen start vaping in the first place?
There are several motivations that could be in play. It could be peer pressure, maybe they’re curious and it’s the appeal of the lolly flavours. Teens want to push boundaries and explore, and smoking with friends is one area they might be curious about.
How do I approach the topic with my teenager without pushing them away?
This can be tricky. At this stage, teens are exploring their self-identity and want to separate from the parent. Sometimes, any topic discussed with a parent is going to be met with resistance – especially when it’s about being told to not do something (!).
This is where being empathetic and non-judgemental is so important when starting a conversation. It’s about you creating an open space where your teen feels comfortable discussing their experiences and concerns. (See the tips below).
Don’t start off in a defensive or confrontational atmosphere.
Tips for how to manage the issue and support your teen
Stay informed
If you suspect your teen might be vaping, we highly recommend you arm yourself with knowledge about vaping, including the devices and substances involved. This will empower you to have informed discussions with your teen.
Be Supportive, Not Accusatory
While you might have strong feelings and opinions about your teen vaping (we understand), the tip is to approach the issue with empathy rather than ‘blame’. In your conversation perhaps acknowledge that your teen might be making choices influenced by their friends or out of curiosity. You can express your concern and support. But essentially, supportive conversations can foster trust and understanding.
Establish Clear Rules and Consequences
As part of your conversation, you can also set clear boundaries regarding vaping behaviour. Calmly communicate your expectations and well-defined consequences. Consistency is important here to enforce the rules.
An example: Maybe instead of agreeing to your teen going over to their friend’s place to hang out (where you know that friend vapes) you can encourage your child to invite the friend to your place where it’s easier for you to keep an eye out on your child.
Teach About Consent
Starting from an early age, talk to your teens about consent. Alcohol can complicate things and consent can be an issue when teens have a few drinks. Especially if the big V has been at the party – a vodka bottle!
Always Have a Plan B
Encourage your teen to have a plan B and to reach out to you if things go south. Michelle has worked out a signal if it’s time for a rescue from the party – it’s the “poo emoji”! No words are needed in the text. If Michelle sees it, she knows to go get her teen. This way they’re not embarrassed in front of their friends.
Talking with your teen about vaping or other issues can be tricky but it helps if you approach it in a collaborative and supportive manner. Stay informed, establish clear boundaries, and seek additional help when needed.
Your role as a parent and carer isn’t only about identifying the problems, but to guide your teen toward informed and healthy choices for their well-being.
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